The Stone Cold Bench is back

Leighton · Jan 16, 2018, 12:17 PM

Sending love, Martin

Hester Jean · Jan 16, 2018, 06:03 PM

Quote from: MartinG on Jan 16, 2018, 08:43 AMSpent my Dad's last hour with him yesterday. He was 85 and had become very poorly so it's a release for him and for my Mum who has been his primary carer for years and was struggling. He gave me my passion for a great tune and a brilliant lyric, and my joy in language and verbal imagination. His many characteristic phrases, curious neologisms and playful ditties ring in my head and always will.

I'm sorry, Martin! 😔😚

Bookman George · Jan 16, 2018, 09:44 PM

My sympathies, Martin. It is difficult to lose a parent, at any age. It sounds like he was a bright man who lived a good life. You will keep him alive in all the things you remember about him.

DiveMilw · Jan 17, 2018, 06:46 AM

I'm so sorry to hear this, Martin.

AmyG · Jan 17, 2018, 12:20 PM

My condolences, Martin. He sounds like a great guy.

valmont · Jan 18, 2018, 10:51 AM

So sorry to hear, Martin, but I'm glad you were with him at the end.

mrssondheim · Jul 08, 2018, 07:51 PM

I need to sit here for a little bit. I am not sure if I am allowed to just bitch for a bit, but I didn't know where else to go.

I get quite angry when people get upset with me if I do NOT come out right away after a show. Just ask someone to let me know you are here and I will come out to say HI as soon as I can. I know I don't like to know ahead of time that you are there, as I just want to be in the moment when I am in a show, but even after a show, you can always grab an usher and they will let me know promptly and I will come out.

There are a few reasons I do not like to come out right after a show. Yes in our county the actors are encouraged to run right out in our costumes to greet the audience. I will do that when it is expected, and informed of this when cast. If it is not expected, I tend to be very old school about it, and choose to separate myself from my character after a performance. I wish that was still a norm as I think the other is tacky, except in certain cases.

I am also allergic to most scents, and am putting my health at risk each time I come out. Even if you are NOT wearing anything, chances are someone near you is, and that can ruin my voice for the rest of that weeks shows. Not going to risk it. Sorry. Not to mention all the colds and flu's.

Add to that, I am DRIPPING with sweat at the end of this particular show and really just need a moment to take my costume off, hang it up, and just be for a moment before rushing out to greet people.

Audiences expecting cast members to come out after a show is getting ridiculous. I do not owe it to you to come out on the off chance that you are there. I owe it to the show itself to be able to perform the show again the next night. I owe it to the costumer to hang up my costumes. I owe it to the wig person to gently remove my wigs so that they are not a fucking mess that they have to restyle night after night after night.

I am angered that I am to be made to feel guilty if I am responsible. Or guilty that I have ever worsening allergies, that you know about, but think I should just suck it up because I should just sense that you came to the show today.

Just completely frustrating.

KathyB · Dec 07, 2018, 04:09 PM

I need to sit here for a bit today. This was a Monday disguised as a Friday.

I don't like being told I need to stay late ten minutes before I'm otherwise supposed to leave. Even worse, I suppose in a way, is figuring out myself that I need to stay late ten minutes before I'm supposed to leave, because I can't stop thinking that if I organized my time better, I wouldn't be in the position of needing to stay late.

I know that makes no sense, and I don't care. That's why I'm on the bench!

KathyB · Jul 03, 2020, 02:26 PM

Aaaaaarrrgh.

I've been working on a job application for a state job for a week. All the paperwork I have says that the closing date is July 7 at 11:59 pm. I was all prepared to submit the application, and the website told me that the deadline to submit is past, so I can't apply for this job. I go back to the posting, and the closing date had been changed to July 2 at 11:59. Don't ask me when they did this. I worked REALLY HARD on this stupid application. I spent two therapy sessions going over this application. I think this is unfair, but I don't have any specific people to complain to. So I'm here.

DiveMilw · Jul 03, 2020, 05:17 PM

I'm sorry, Kathy. I have seen a similar thing happen to postings at work. In my case I have been only a bystander so I wasn't affected. Hopefully they will open the posting back up and you can quickly submit since you have everything done. Or another, even better, opportunity will present itself

KathyB · Nov 10, 2020, 02:02 PM

I am here because 2 Blondes All Breeds Rescue doesn't think I'm fit to have a roommate. Over the past two weeks I've been jumping through hoops to answer their questions, first about my HOA's rules on pets and then about my admittedly small backyard. Today they told me that they had concerns about the security of the fence around my yard, and they were not going to further process my application. The fence is the HOA's responsibility. Even if I knew what to do to make the fence more secure, I wouldn't be able to do it.

I was told I could reapply if my situation changed.